tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.comments2023-03-21T18:57:10.926-05:00Love, Sex, and FamilyAnnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01216616459705692371noreply@blogger.comBlogger69125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-71859880008119269072012-11-12T17:43:13.150-06:002012-11-12T17:43:13.150-06:00Anne, congratulations on your tour! Loved this fil...Anne, congratulations on your tour! Loved this film. Caught it on Netflix which was a surprise as they don't usually appear until they're older. Portrayed a sort of fantasy of what you might like sexual communication to be like in a family. Personal, but not private. Open, but dignified. Not without some struggle.Seanhttp://www.orgasmicguy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-69239628193366940612012-09-13T21:11:09.063-05:002012-09-13T21:11:09.063-05:00It's amazing (except that it isn't) how mu...It's amazing (except that it isn't) how much some people can galvanize silly fears by projecting their own often unacknowledged misunderstandings or even problems onto an ignorant and complicit society. Then let's throw in some pseudo-evolution to make it look scientific.<br /><br /><br />Hugo Schwyzer's phrase "prurience hiding behind the cloak of science" indicates it well. Moreover, this is still a society which encourages females to be sexual and then condemns their sexual being --- a society which encourages them to act sexual and forbids them sexual acts.Paul Rapoportnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-29857318238476093602012-09-13T21:11:08.144-05:002012-09-13T21:11:08.144-05:00Images of women with small breasts could be argued...Images of women with small breasts could be argued to be infantilizing them, as in the Australian ban of small breasts, see http://theweek.com/article/index/105766/australias-small-breast-ban<br /><br />Presumably we should also worry about youngsters who mature early, and have older-looking genitals!<br /><br />We know that some cultures go to extremes, particularly with image of women. Their solution is to make women dress in veils and hide their "form". The recent slutshaming issues tells us that dressing sexy is not the same as being sexual, and is not a sexual invitation.<br /><br />Women should be able to chose what they do with their bodies and body hair, and certainly not pander to male sensibilities.Tom Jonesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-81629251466689497912012-09-13T21:11:07.472-05:002012-09-13T21:11:07.472-05:00Thank you for your personal comment! I'm so so...Thank you for your personal comment! I'm so sorry you had to experience that sense of shame at such a young age. But good for you facing it head on and now enjoying precious bath times with your son! Haffner (From Diapers to Dating) recommends bath time as a good time for building intimacy and for children to learn about the body. <br /><br />To parents concerned about siblings of the opposite sex together, she writes reassuringly that "Even in homes where nudity is common, children seem to go through a 'modesty stage' in which they are no longer willing to change in front of their parents or walk around without clothes on" (103).quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-76662517798695711832012-09-13T21:11:06.040-05:002012-09-13T21:11:06.040-05:00This sounds like a great book and hopefully that w...This sounds like a great book and hopefully that woman will be ignored.<br /><br />I can remember wanting to see a boy down there so badly. I was only curious! So I asked my neighbor when I was 8 and he just ran away. So then I was ashamed but still curious -- not horny! I had to wait Eons before I finally saw one -- and it was in person (unfortunately). More curious than horny than too.<br /><br />Being a mom has really shown me my weird hang-ups too. My son had wanted to take a bath together for so long and one day when he was 3 I finally did. It was so sweet! He just wanted to bathe my legs and be close with me in the tub. So we do that on occassion. I'm so bothered by my own sexualized perception of this intimacy -- just like the woman in the article. Of course, I don't intend to do that forever. But for now, it's no big deal.Ultimateoutcastshttp://ultimateoutcasts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-45957347080995184862012-09-13T21:11:05.113-05:002012-09-13T21:11:05.113-05:00Thanks for commenting, Jenny! Interesting how whil...Thanks for commenting, Jenny! Interesting how while you and I are born only two years apart (I'm born in 1973), our mothers related very differently to breastfeeding. Nursing became one of the issues the women's movement in Norway fought for in the late sixties and seventies, inspired, in fact, by the American book, "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding." Good for you trusting your instincts despite your mother's original reaction!quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-86733820723549676212012-09-13T21:11:04.150-05:002012-09-13T21:11:04.150-05:00- !- !quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-22797938935240636302012-09-13T21:11:03.078-05:002012-09-13T21:11:03.078-05:00We have one of those Gauguin "boob" pain...We have one of those Gauguin "boob" paintings in our living room. The boobs definitely are not the focal point.Boobernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-68966930082765946852012-09-13T21:11:02.174-05:002012-09-13T21:11:02.174-05:00זה יהיה נכון ביותר הם מעדיפים כזה ........... אמהו...זה יהיה נכון ביותר הם מעדיפים כזה ........... אמהות מניקות רבות, אמהות אחרות, האמהות לעתיד יש בנקודה זו או אחרת, הרגשתי מקופח על הגוף שלהם - גם הפרה. <a href="http://www.ratuv.co.il/" rel="nofollow"><b>סקס</b></a>lisa karennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-27191878590995389962012-09-13T21:11:01.007-05:002012-09-13T21:11:01.007-05:00Such great stuff! I think women like to have a hig...Such great stuff! I think women like to have a higher number just because it makes them feel more desirable to men. Not such a great development in women's liberation but I suppose it's the learning curve. We need to teach our girls better. Great post!Ultimateoutcastshttp://ultimateoutcasts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-2870436705198874052012-09-13T21:11:00.055-05:002012-09-13T21:11:00.055-05:00I look forward to seeing you there, Anne!
I look forward to seeing you there, Anne!<br /><br />Shannon Drurynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-67378803383887100442012-09-13T21:10:59.031-05:002012-09-13T21:10:59.031-05:00Thank you Kendra! More acceptance is definitely wh...Thank you Kendra! More acceptance is definitely what this world needs. Wrenna Robertsonhttp://twitter.com/ShowOffBooksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-12848465159026531622012-09-13T21:10:58.036-05:002012-09-13T21:10:58.036-05:00Amazing article! So empowering and fresh. I will k...Amazing article! So empowering and fresh. I will keep coming back to this and share with others, as it goes so well with my open and honest philosophy and accepting others for who they are. As a former stripper, escort and sex surrogate, I have deep admiration and respect for you.Kendra Hollidaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-8074135953721295862012-09-13T21:10:57.026-05:002012-09-13T21:10:57.026-05:00The Parents Television Council was successful in g...The Parents Television Council was successful in getting MTV drop the teen show Skins--after PTC persuaded several advertisers to stop sponsorship of the show. PTC called on state attorney generals of several states to investigate Skins (and MTV) for child porn. <br /><br />Do you have any opinions on Skins?Aphrodite Hathornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-77088769307969171452012-09-13T21:10:56.061-05:002012-09-13T21:10:56.061-05:00 Hi Aphrodite,
Thank you for sharing your concern... Hi Aphrodite,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your concern, but I'm not worried. The wide positive reception this film has received around the world and within the US, from film critics and audience members alike, send a loud and clear message that this film has nothing to do with child pornography and all about the need for approaching teenage sexuality, be it male or female, openly and honestly, and with respect. <br /><br />Annequizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-86877517235324184482012-09-13T21:10:54.973-05:002012-09-13T21:10:54.973-05:00Hi Anne,
I have a legal background and have resear...Hi Anne,<br />I have a legal background and have researched the laws regarding child pornography. Based on my understanding of the law, the image you have posted above of the girl with her hand in her panties would support a prosecution for child porn by a zealous prosecutor. In most of America the posting of such a picture would not likely be prosecuted, but that is the type of image that easily gets people harassed and into jail in certain states.<br /><br />If this movie actually gets shown widely in the U.S. without anyone being prosecuted for its exhibition, it might signal that there is an opening to discuss teenage sexuality more openly and honestly. Aphrodite Hathornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-65310831307778911762012-09-13T21:10:54.017-05:002012-09-13T21:10:54.017-05:00Paul: I actually can't quite see how your comm...Paul: I actually can't quite see how your comment disagrees with the article. The authors are very careful not to assert a simple cause and effect connection between these childified pictures and pedophilia; they simply ask us that we consider them. "There's no reputable evidence that photos cause or increase crime of this sort" -- agreed. But we do know images affect us, true? As the publisher of <a href="http://www.lovesexfamily.com/2012/01/see-me-hear-me-this-is-who-i-am-century.html" rel="nofollow">The Century Project</a>, I would think you'd be the first to accept that argument. <br /><br />And at Wookies Girl: please read the post again. The article doesn't state that "a bare vagina somehow will inspire pedophilia." Read it, and you'll find the answers to the questions you pose above about how these pictures may affect young women. And yes, there are images available that show labia of all shapes and sizes, but please show me a (porn) magazine that does (here in the US? seriously?!). <br /><br />"Society loves to blame its self esteem issues on the media?" -- for good reasons, I'd say. That said, I totally agree with you "that America has cornered the market on sexual oppression, yet we have violence in many shows on prime time television." So you do agree that we live in a sexually oppressed culture; a culture that is unwilling to celebrate and represent actual, natural bodies and sex. A culture for whom real looking genitals are a problem. While guns and violence are not.<br /><br />I have a lot more to say in response to all of this; in fact, it turned into its own post. You can find it in my other blog here: <a href="http://www.newpornbywomen.com/2012/02/lets-talk-about-effects-of-porn.html" rel="nofollow">let's talk about the effects of porn</a>quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-67538617870455008472012-09-13T21:10:53.153-05:002012-09-13T21:10:53.153-05:00Although much of this is valuable, the connection ...Although much of this is valuable, the connection to pedophilia isn't as sound as it seems. There's no reputable evidence that photos cause or increase crime of this sort. That isn't to say that individuals may not be affected in some way (a more complex notion than it may seem); but in the population as a whole, there is no connection beyond reasoned speculation.<br /><br />The article "Online “Predators” and Their Victims" by Wolak, Finkelhor, and others, from 2008, is one of several that note a few reasons not to accept the speculation.Regardless, the connection of women to children as sexual fantasies for men is not new; there's notable literature on the subject going back some decades at least, if not a century or two. It's still a major problem.Paul Rapoportnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-72700977285476083962012-09-13T21:10:52.026-05:002012-09-13T21:10:52.026-05:00Its very informative and interesting article.all t...Its very informative and interesting article.all the points are very useful. Simple but very effective writing. Thanks for sharing such a nice post. Infertility Clinicshttp://fertilityclinicreviews.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-91638285395341397892012-09-13T21:10:51.005-05:002012-09-13T21:10:51.005-05:00You may be interested in viewing this documentary ...You may be interested in viewing this documentary on the link between images such as those found in Playboy magazine and the rise in labiaplasty surgeries: http://vimeo.com/9924049 <br /><br /> Mainstream pornography is almost certainly harming young women who flip through the pages of these magazines and end up feeling completely abnormal when none of the vulvas resemble their own. The original research paper found that in all of the photos spanning a one year period, only 7% showed any sign of inner labia whatsoever. This is in marked contrast to numerous other studies which have found a wide diversity in terms of labia length. Most women (and men) are unaware that digital alteration is so rampant it extends as far as our genitals. <br /><br />You are right that the way we are raised has much to do with self-esteem. Unfortunately for most of us in Western society, this means we are raised to never speak of our genitals, and certainly never ask a friend what their's look like. When women are curious about what other women's bodies look like, too often they turn to mainstream pornography - magazines like Playboy.Wrenna Robertsonhttp://twitter.com/ShowOffBooksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-49680197434151717462012-09-13T21:10:50.015-05:002012-09-13T21:10:50.015-05:00And I thought that all kids were interested only i...And I thought that all kids were interested only in their Playstations and Barbie dolls, and didn't think of sex until they reached puberty... on their 18th birthday.Tom Jonesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-57197521149664091972012-09-13T21:10:49.023-05:002012-09-13T21:10:49.023-05:00Thanks for the thoughts & the link, Anne!Thanks for the thoughts & the link, Anne!Mollyhttp://www.firsttheegg.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-68390691456410903962012-09-13T21:10:48.015-05:002012-09-13T21:10:48.015-05:00 I understand and appreciate your opinion. I still... I understand and appreciate your opinion. I still don't buy that women are in pursuit of the perfect body or labia because of playboy. There are so many nude magazines that show labia's of all shapes and sizes. <br /><br />Statistics are both useful and useless, because they always show only one point of view. There are many men that I personally know that prefer larger labia, some prefer smaller. Same goes for pubic hair preferences. Ultimately it's truly up to each woman to decide what *they* prefer to look like. <br /><br />I've had labiaplasty. Why? I can tell you for sure it wasn't due to Playboy magazine, and I've been collecting that magazine for over 18 yrs now. It was due to what my labia looked like after birthing 3 children. <br /><br />My point is that society loves to blame it's self esteem issues on the media. It's a cop out as far as I am concerned. Playboy touches up their photos, so does every single magazine, pornographic or not, on the market. What is even more amazing is that America has cornered the market on sexual oppression, yet we have violence in many shows on prime time television. Aren't we the rebellious lot that migrated across the sea so we could be free to express ourselves? The land of the free, home of the brave...<br /><br />We *love* to blame our internal hangups on everything and everyone else, rather than looking at our own crap and households. Self deception and finger pointing at its finest. <br /><br />Just one woman's opinion, of course. =)Wookiesgirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-7770307215409281182012-09-13T21:10:47.024-05:002012-09-13T21:10:47.024-05:00This article is the most ridiculous thing I've...This article is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. How can they even begin to say that a bare vagina somehow will inspire pedophilia. Also how is playboy magazine a threat to young women? Are they saying young adolescent woman are being allowed to look at playboy? Hey why just stop at playboy magazine. Why not target every pornographic magazine on the planet. How about Victoria secret. We can start blaming all magazines that show the preferred grooming habit trends of the decade for all sexual crimes against woman and children. <br /><br />Why is it that society consistently blames media or music or Barbie for how women feel about themselves. Has any one bothered to looks inside their own front door? Last I knew low self esteem had more to do with how you're raised versus what toys you played with.WookiesGirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-241470552116286331.post-31122302832916721812012-09-13T21:10:46.052-05:002012-09-13T21:10:46.052-05:00Sigh, PTC is a small group that has an unreasonabl...Sigh, PTC is a small group that has an unreasonable amount of say in this country due to its loud, screaming voice.<br /><br />Skin is an award-winning British drama that dares to look honestly at all the typical and all the difficult issues young people have to deal with, sex being just one among many others. quizzicalmamanoreply@blogger.com